“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt
As humans, we often compare ourselves to others. And there are a number of reasons why we do so. People are different. Therefore, we seemingly compare ourselves to a multitude of people. Either because we like their lifestyles, their career success, their family backgrounds, their physical appearances, their jobs and the list is endless.
The fact remains that many people compare themselves to others. I was one of those people. I was the guilty one but it’s all in the past now. I have grown wiser and I know better now that it is not a good approach to adopt. I used to compare myself with the achievement of my friends or I use them as a yard stick to measure and assess my own success.
There is nothing wrong with this attitude. But it becomes unacceptable when you keep focusing on others life and success rates without trying to develop yourself to attain an appreciable level of the success you desire.
The implication of this sentiment or emotion is that once it becomes a habit, it keeps affecting one’s mental stability. Certainly, it begins to steal one’s joy and happiness and even begin to erode one’s confidence. I believe that I’m not alone in this experience as many others are guilty too.
I changed my focus and attitude the moment I realised that every human being is unique. That everyone is gifted with specific and rare qualities. You are a special brand blessed with your gifts and talents. Your contributions and values, your voice and passion are tailored and fashioned for you. You are entirely unique to youself and your purpose in this world. Thus, you can never be properly compared to anyone else.
It is pertinent to understand that many success stories that we read about are largely edited and for the public feed. Citing the Social Media Lifestyle as a good example, we don’t have to look at other peoples Social Media statuses and projections. There is no need to feel unaccomplished and incomplete because of what we see others display, especially where there is no means of veracity.
As a matter of fact, comparisons will distract you and leave you unnecessarily sad and even depressed. Besides, people only post the best of their results, not the tears behind their failures.
Stop the comparisons. Focus on yourself. Know your worth. Know your destination. Run your own race. Follow your own goals.
The best to you as you strive to focus on your uniqueness.
Peace and Love!
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This is such a great post and I’m soooo working on trying to change this part of myself, because I spend so much time comparing myself to others and it’s such a major drag on my life…
Love this post. Love it, love it, love it! ❤
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Aawww…I’m glad you can relate with the intent of the post. Some of us are guilty at some point in our lives but once we understand more about life… We know better to modify our emotions and thought processes. Thank you and a blessed day to you. 🙂
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I am sure many of us are guilty of comparing our selves to others and feeling inadequate in many aspects. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but we fail to see the beautiful green on our side. Loved the last line, strive to focus on your uniqueness. That sums up the post pretty well. Have a great week Stella!!
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Thanks so much for a great feedback. You are unique in so many ways. A great week to you too. 🙂
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So very true. It serves no purpose to compare ourselves to others but sadly we often do. Better we run our own race.
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That’s the best way to go in life. We should do what you can, follow our own path and make the best out of it. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂
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Absolutely Stella. And my pleasure 🙂
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everyone has their own song to sing, their own dance steps to waltz them through life, G-d bless n awe the rest x
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True that… Thanks so much. 🙂
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Love this post, so true, we should celebrate our uniqueness x
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Exactly we should know we are perculiar and unique. Thanks Liza for stopping by. Xo
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You’re very welcome 😊
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Every one is born unique and should learn to love themselves the way they are rather than craving for more.
Such a lovely post! 🙂
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You said it well. Thanks Dearie. 🙂
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Great post , yes we are all unique
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Thank you. 🙂
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I used to have anxiety problems because I often compare myself to others many times. I often shut down my social media because I couldn’t deal with people’s opinions about me, and I always compare their wonderful life with mine. After reading your words, I’m reminded that I’m not the only one that used to think like that. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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You’re welcome. No, it’s not peculiar to you. Many had such problems too until they become of it. Thanks for your feedback. Have a blessed day. 🙂
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Great post. I believe that we need to work on ourselves to be different.We need a lot of courage for that,because we are projected from birth to be like others.Specially now when we have so much social networks, so much tv houses which they impose to us their taste to sell us things.
I have similar post http://benaqiba.com/you-are-different/
Thank you
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Absolutely correct. Thanks Ben and hope you will have a beautiful weekend. 🙂
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